Nothing is Permanent

Nothing stays the same.

Relationships, our bodies, our minds, the world around us, you name it–everything changes.

Everybody knows this, but you know what? Just like every other aspect of our lives, it’s easy to lose sight of the fact that life is a steady stream of changes. Sometimes these changes are obvious, but sometimes they creep up on us. You go about your life, doing the normal everyday things, and you get used to the idea that everything will always be the same. You will always be skinny. The corner store will always be there. Your memory will always be perfect. You will always be sad or fat or unhealthy or gorgeous or whatever.

Things seem permanent.

But they’re not.

Some of you are probably wondering where the hell I’ve been on the blog lately. Well, I’m not going to go into it in great detail just yet, but a friend of mine recently betrayed me and MisCon, the science fiction convention that I help run, so I have been otherwise occupied.

This has caused me to do a different sort of reflecting than I usually do (which has been good).

I realized I had always approached him from an arrogant position: I knew I was smarter than him. I wasn’t a loser like him. I was competent and capable, and while I knew he was in many ways a bottom feeder, I never for a moment thought he was embezzling money from us. I made the mistake of casting him in a role then assuming he would always play it. And he did, really–that’s the beauty of his scheming–he used my own assumptions against me.

I didn’t think he was capable of such a crime, and even when faced with evidence of his embezzlement, I hardly believed it. In my arrogance, my inability to really examine the situation, I didn’t bother to step back and really look at what was happening.

Suddenly you can have your life ripped up left and right by someone you trusted. Or by disease. Or age. Or a car wreck. Whatever. Live your life to its fullest and enjoy your time. You don’t have much of it.