Question Everything

Don’t take things at face value.

Don’t just believe what people tell you. Especially don’t believe what advertisers tell you. Educate yourself. Honestly, most people are probably pretty genuine, but many aren’t, especially when you consider that corporations are considered “people” these days.

I got thinking about this today after reading an interesting couple articles about “Domestic” Kobe Beef (read it here) and how you can’t get Kobe Beef in the US, even though restaurants and online suppliers offer it to you all over the place. I’ve never ordered fake Kobe Beef, and I never really had any intention of doing so, but now I really never will.

Look at what motivates people or companies when they tell you things. What do they get out of the transaction they want you to make? What are they selling? What do they want from you?

People are disingenuous. Many of us are anyway, and I continue to learn that I, for one, really need to be smarter about what I take for face value. I think I’ve been extremely lucky in our 12 years of business–we have never been ripped off. Not once. And we work for new customers every week or few weeks as we finish jobs and move on to the next one. I have dealt with scumbags, of course, but nobody has ever really managed to pull one over on us (that I know of, anyway. *sigh*).

I’m thinking about this yet again in relation to the former friend of mine who stole from MisCon. It seems like every day we learn about things he has done over the past few years that never came to light, mostly because people didn’t want to disparage him or his reputation. I’m not going to go into detail, but he was fired from multiple jobs either for stealing or for Had we known about half of these things, we would have investigated MisCon’s fiances a hell of a lot sooner. This criminal wouldn’t have been able to get away with as much as he did.

More than anything, this makes me wonder what else he did to people. How far did it go? What could we have done to stop it? Who else is up to no good?

I’m not becoming jaded at all (at least I don’t think so), but I am becoming a lot more vigilant, even with good friends. No longer can I trust my instincts when it comes to things like this.

You shouldn’t either.

3 Replies to “Question Everything”

  1. Trust is such an important thing and one of the worst things to lose. A friend once put a sticker on her car with Got Integrity? on it.  Kinda like the Got Milk? campaign.  It always made me smile.  I am proud to call her friend.  Seems like we need a few more of those stickers around.

  2. You know, I don’t always think its a conscious desire to protect people from their own mistakes, but really, a desire to believe that your friend has “turned the corner” or “is just having a rough time” or “has been out of it lately.” I think it’s a natural human response to want to believe well of our friends and cut them some slack. For example,  I realized recently that one of my friends had made a change that seemed abrupt to me. I could NOT fathom that they would take on such an attitude towards women. There was about five seconds of “this can’t happening” followed by “oh &#$@! this is happening.” In that moment, our friendship broke and the mental “block” or occlusion lifted and I could see a lot of ugliness. 
     
    About two years prior, I had made a very unflattering realization about another friend, but it didn’t break things the same way. The two events put together have made me very wary of people that are… moochers, for lack of a better term. I don’t find slack for them anymore.  It’s made me dig for info, too. .It’s made me very wary. But I know that if someone can convince me, I’ll see them through the occlusion….. because our brain is wired for that.
     
    “Question everything first.” I would say. “Revisit that position once in awhile.”

    1. I’ve also made a point of anyone that is predatory is pretty much out the door with no questions, with one or two major exceptions (mainly, I haven’t decided what I think, which means they aren’t IN the door either.)

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